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Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for about 16 months now, and we've been sleeping together for 14 months of our relationship. Before we got together, I hadn't done anything more than kissing, so everything sexual has been my first time with him.

It took a long time for us to get to a point where sex "worked" and it wasn't causing me immense pain and was starting to feel good.

Now, sex is great! But I'm still SO self conscious. I find I can only orgasm if we're in a position where I'm not facing him. I was on top, facing him last night and was SO close, but I just couldn't come. It's so frustrating. I love him so much, and am so comfortable around him, so why do I feel like this?

Anyone got any advice?!

Hey, this is my first here, so here is some background info before I go into my tangent and ask for some advice. My name is Elie, I'm a senior in high school, I'm in a relationship with a guy I've been with for a little under a month in a half. We are very compatible, especially sexually, we both want to explore this area, but some of his ideas scare me (even if they turn me on.)
Like fisting.
So my boyfriend and I are meeting up tomorrow night, and we will be having a lot of sex. One thing that makes me nervous though, he suggested trying fisting the other night. Now, in the past I have never done it, nor have I ever wanted too, it sounded so painful. Because the moment he suggested it, it was probably the most phenomenal idea I'd heard all week.
Now, I really want to try it, and we plan on it this weekend, but I am still very very nervous about this idea. It's a 50/50 thing. Half excited, half scared as fuck.


Also, my boyfriend is, well, huge. I've only been with two people previous to him, and it'd been a year since I had sex the first time we did it, we weren't very rough, but afterwards I was bleeding a little bit, same with the second time. The third time we hung out, I was sick and wasn't up to much so he fingered me, but I bled from that too.
Does anyone have any ideas as to why this is happening? I'm sorry, I haven't checked the memories on this question yet.
And because of this bleeding thing, is fisting a safe thing to do still?

Sorry for rambling so much! I just really don't quite know what I'm doing with this stuff.

Oh, also, when reading the memories, I frequently saw it mentioned to use a glove. Is a glove necessary? I'd really preferr not to use one, and same with lube. I honestly produce a lot of that myself, I doubt we'll need it. Or are those absolute necessities for something like this?

I've been through and I've read the memories, and they have helped me on the mechanical aspect of this, but I was wondering if anyone would be willing to share stories/personal experiences to help comfort me? This idea really does make me nervous, despite how excited I am. Is it safe? Have you tried it and enjoyed it?
(sorry for such a long post!)

So, my boyfriend of 9 months and I just transitioned from long distance (194 miles) to LONG distance (1888 miles). I used to be able to visit him once every one or two weeks. Now I may not see him for quite a while (at least until January).

Now here's my problem: I have a very high sex drive which my boyfriend has a hard time keeping up with even when we can see each other. Now that he's physically unreachable, I don't know how to deal with my sex drive. He has already said that he is not ok with an open relationship, so I cannot deal with it that way. It's not about orgasms for me. I masturbate frequently and have no problem giving myself orgasms. Regardless of how frequently or infrequently I masturbate, the longer I go without sex, the more I cannot stop thinking about it. I'm already having a hard time dealing, and I feel like I'm looking at all the guys around me like they are steaks and I am starving.

How do you guys subdue your sex drive/get your body/mind to focus its attentions elsewhere?

So, I've started playing with this guy who is really submissive.
Trouble is, I'm generally the submissive one in my relationships.
I find the idea of dominating a guy extremely hot.
But I just don't know how to go about it.
I get shy, which is really strange for me because I'm not generally a shy person. I find it hard to be blunt about things, and the idea of telling him how much of a bad boy he's been, and how he needs to be punished, kind of makes me giggle when I go to say it out loud.
We've played with riding crops and whips, but he wants to be tied up and have a real hardcore dominatrix experience.

It really doesn't make sense because I have these dominating tendencies, but when I try to put them into action, it just kind of fails.

So any tips on how I can slowly easy myself into it, or what kind of things I can say to him, what I should do, etc, would be great. I think its the verbal part that I'm having the most trouble with... I just don't know what to say. And how to say it without feeling like an idiot.

I did check the memories, and found a lot of great information. I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this problem, and how they've got around it. The idea of roughing him up is so appealing to me, and I want to do it so much! I just don't know where to start. He hasn't had too much experience with it either, so he hasn't been very helpful when I've asked him about it. Lol.

Thanks in advance!

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So I broke up with my long term girlfriend recently. We had been together for seven years (I'm 24) and I lost my virginity to her. During our relationship we both greatly expanded our sexual adventures together and became quite the freaks in bed. Also both of our sex drives was very high (usually daily).

Well the relationship is over (for reasons not involving sex) and now I find myself in quite the paradox. I'm both highly inexperienced and experienced and I'm have a very hard time dating and finding a new partner.

I recently ended dating one girl when she said that 'I was just interested in sex' when she didn't share my drive for daily sex and she seemed quite put off as I started to bring up more adventitious ideas to try.

I would say I'm quite average a person and never really ran in the circles where kinky things are discussed.

So any advice on being able to find a partner for more than sex, but also someone who will share my bedroom desires (bdsm, pegging, role playing) and not just boring fucking?

I'm single, female, and at University. I've been approached by a couple I know, and they want a threesome.

Oooo.
I actually like the sound of that.
The boy I know well - he lives in my hall of residence, is a good friend, yadda yadda... his girlfriend is BEAUTIFUL, I've met about twice, and we get on really well.
The boy has approached me on two occassions (while I've been drunk) and has asked me if I was up for it... and I've enthusiastically said yes twice... ummm... but, now I'm beginning to wonder how to orchestrate this, and about repercussions. Because I live in a different part of the building I only see the boy every now and again so if it all goes tits up it won't be TOO awkward... but, I do find him attractive!

So, any tips?
I've never done anything with a girl before, and I've only slept with two people. However I get off on girls in porn, etc, so I'm turned on by the idea. It's just the actual -doing- i'm worried about. And, I hate the thought of them 'using' me.... but they're nice people, and they seem to like me.

i feel really silly asking this question but here goes. when my fwb and i have sex, he's usually the one to initiate it. i have no problem saying yes if he asks, but there seems to be something stopping me from initiating it. then i realized that i have no clue how to. even though we're comfortable with each other, i feel somewhat like a skank if i try and convince him into having sex.

so, aside from my rambling, (if you're a female) how do you initiate sex especially if they aren't a s/o?

I checked in the memories, and while I did find some posts regarding certain sextoys and different types and all that, none of them seemed to be about the sort of thing I was looking for; I apologize if I did manage to miss something!

Originally, I was going to post asking questions about recommendations for "outside" vibrators-- Y'know, stuff more designed for stimulation outside the vagina, as opposed to outside, as I'm still not quite comfortable with the idea of penetration yet (I'm still a tad uncomfortable with my "down there", but I'm working on it!). Going through the memories, while I didn't find any posts specifically asking for suggestions on things like this, I did come across a link to Blowfish.com which has a section for "outie" toys.

One item in particular caught my attention-- The Vibrating Panties. It looks like the perfect thing for me; it fits right into the crotch-pocket of my own panties, has a wireless remote...

I'm definitely thinking of getting it, although I would like some input on it first-- Has anybody else ever tried this, and is it worth it? This will be my first sex-toy if I do get it, any helpful opinions would be greatly appreciated! <3

So i just met a guy who i really like, and he has invited me to spend the night a few times, although the idea of cuddiling up in bed with him appeals to me, im afraid that it might lead to other things, and i know i always have the option to just cuddle, however, i think i might like having sex with him right now. The only problem is: I always try to wait to have sex with men because i fear if i sleep with them once they will get bored with me and it will be over.

I guess my question for everyone is: Does anyone else worry like this? Like, so you sleep with the guy and you've only known him a week or so, does that doom any possibility of a serious relationship with the guy? I guess i just feel like all the mystery is gone at that point, you've already slept with the guy, hes seen you naked, what does he have to look forward to?

Hi there. Didn't find anything in the memories so I figured I'd ask here. I'm currently in a long-distance relationship, and she's my first girlfriend (I am a girl as well). She currently does not live anywhere near me and I'll be moving over to her part of the country when I get the chance.

I've never been with a girl before and I don't really know how two girls would go about having sex. Obviously I know how to pleasure myself, but I was wondering if anyone had tips as far as that goes. Also she's a virgin (she's never been kissed at all, never been in a relationship), I'm not, and therefore I don't really know how I'd approach this. We've talked a bit about sex (nothing graphic though) and I know she'd probably want it, but all of my previous boyfriends haven't been virgins so I've never really been the one with the sex know-how.

Thanks in advance!

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